Wednesday, August 30

The best girlfriends are always just not that into you...

Had a chat with a couple of good friends of mine that I haven't seen in a while and as chats like these tend to be, they were quite pleasant and informative. The one sweet lass had helped me find quite the affordable daycare in Cowtown (a rarity, for those not in the know...) on a moment's notice when it was determined that the one she runs was unavailable.

Yep, she is that nice. And the other had helped me knock back the occassional bottle of wine over some of the best bullshit-free conversation ever.

Anyhow, no longer needing daycare and being unavailable to sip a nice Chianti over some dude's liver and Fava beans, we moved on to other things that were more relevant and current in our lives and wouldn't you know...

things have been a little wacky in their own little universes as well. A fact even more solidified when they both asked for the number and address of the psychic that my brother and I went to see.

Hmmm...anyhow, they both made a point which resonated deeply within me for god knows why but nonetheless much resonance was experienced....I was resonating, or there was resonating going on...whatever the hell that means.

The whole resonance thing aside, what one had mentioned was how many people cannot accept help or recognize the need for it at all. As if it were to admit failure as a person or having to accept the fact that you are completely helpless and/or incapable or something silly like that.

To have to be able to look around and realize that no matter how badly you want to do things alone and have a go at it by yourself, it's just not going to happen. Everyone needs help and those that triumph acknowledge it and accept without getting all hung up over it.

She was referring to her own unique situation, naturally, but what struck me was how open she was being with me , and inevitably with herself. And even more profound, was the fact that she was able to communicate that with me. When asked about it, she simply said she stood to gain everything or lose everything and she was tired of losing out or worrying that she may have, so she swallowed her pride and starting asking.

And she mentioned how easy it was to do and how stupid and immature she felt when she realized she could feel more proud of herself by asking than fighting or outright refusing to do so.

hmm...

And little miss other lass had mentioned that she had committed herself to the idea of pursuing a goal, and damn the torpedoes she was going to do it her way, by herself and nothing was going to prevent her. That's when she realized by doing that she had completely pushed away and walled herself from the people that could help her get to exactly where she wanted and needed to be.
She felt stupid and like shit for having been so stubborn that it ultimately led to her not even getting close to what she had been trying to achieve.

hmm..

and now, they are very humble and content and moving right along gloriously to where they want to be.

There was a point to all of this asinine tripe but it would appear I have completely lost it altogether...

hmm...

oh yeah, I remember now.

Everyone goes through this stuff but how you get through it is to simply sit back for a spell and relate to those that have gone through it before...

and tickety-boo, next thing you know you're off to the races better than ever, literally.

And the best thing about is, you are reassured in knowing who the people that truly
care about you are and that they are there for you before you even think about having to ask for them...

oh and one more thing that kicks ass...

help is free.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Just so you know....help isn't always free, everyone has there price whether big or small.

Hope you are doing well :o)

Kelly

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